Family and Friends

Learn to say and do the right things

 

What you can say…

• I am sad for you
• How are you doing
• This must be very difficult for you
• What can I do for you
• I am here and I want to help

 

What you should Not say…

• You can have another baby
• You have an angel in heaven
• This happened for a reason
• Better for this to happen now before you knew the baby
• There was something wrong with the baby  anyway
• Calling the baby a thing or it

 

How you can help…

• Listen to them
• Touch with care, hugs or gentle pats on the hand or arm
• Cry with the family
• Attend the memorial service
• Remember them on the baby’s due date or birthday
• Never forget